The fact that a spoon and a fork are equal in value does not mean that they are identical. A laptop and a desktop may be equal in value but not identical. Two different objects can be worth the same but not made for the same purposes.
And such is the case with men and women.
Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.’ Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, ‘This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.’ Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
From Genesis 2
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
From Ephesians 5
We are made. And interwoven with all our individualities and dreams and beautiful complexities are our genders. God made humans male and female, and in doing so, and in authoring marriage and childbearing, He did something wonderful, something that reflects His glory.
He made man, and he was of great value to Him. He made woman, and she was of equal value to Him. Both precious. But they were not identical. Their purposes and places were not the same. And if they tried to make them so, they would damage each other and mar the purposes of their Creator.
Men and women are both made in the amazing image of God. But men should not bear children and women should not fight wars. Men should not have sex with men and women should not have sex with women. Rebelling against the Creator always ends badly for the rebel. I can vouch for it myself, from every time I sin in anger or pride. God is good, and to go against Him is to go against what is true and worthwhile and beautiful.
Men and women are equal but not interchangeable.
We have trouble seeing that in America in 2016, but that’s an us problem.
Our design is beautiful; it’s our hearts that have malfunctioned.