Often, the chain that binds your heart to bitterness is self-righteousness. It’s the controlling, constant belief that you did not deserve what was done to you. And so you can’t forgive. You can’t stop re-living it. You can’t stop hating.
If that’s you, let go of the illusion that you are intrinsically righteous, and you will find your heart freer to forgive.
In Christ, we can know that our sins against God are far more offensive than any sins committed against us. And we are offered forgiveness by grace through faith in Him.
Preaching this great Gospel to one’s self helps to foster forgiveness and kill bitterness. Because no man is ready to forgive from the heart more than the one who knows how wicked he was before Christ.
Where self-righteousness locks you to bitterness, the Gospel frees you to forgiveness.
For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.