It will, if you don’t mind my saying so, carry a cross.
A Godly man will use himself for the good of others. A fleshly man will use others for the good of himself.
And so, and this is key, Godly manhood is costly to the man himself. Because he is purchasing something. Procuring something. Redeeming something.
When it comes to fatherhood, for instance, a man shouldn’t expect to reap the later rewards of fatherhood if it isn’t costing him anything when the kids are young. A smarter man than me (Doug Wilson) said that a dad shouldn’t be surprised if he isn’t able to cash checks from an account he never made any deposits to. Even if his name is on that account.
When it comes to marriage, a Godly man should expect to exhaust himself in prayer and devotion to his bride. The Boazes of the world wear themselves out for their beloveds.
For the church, for his family, for the lost, a man who is living out the creative, protective, glorious work God designed men to do will trade some of his comforts, spend from his strengths and his time. He will think and pray and act on behalf of others. He will leverage himself for the wellbeing of other people and mortgage his abilities for the glory of God. He will spend himself. He’ll gladly pay that redemption price.
And so a Godly man will resemble Christ.
He said, ‘Who are you?’ And she answered, ‘I am Ruth, your servant. Spread your wings over your servant, for you are a redeemer.’ And he said, ‘May you be blessed by the Lord, my daughter. You have made this last kindness greater than the first in that you have not gone after young men, whether poor or rich. And now, my daughter, do not fear. I will do for you all that you ask, for all my fellow townsmen know that you are a worthy woman. And now it is true that I am a redeemer. Yet there is a redeemer nearer than I. Remain tonight, and in the morning, if he will redeem you, good; let him do it. But if he is not willing to redeem you, then, as the Lord lives, I will redeem you. Lie down until the morning.’
From Ruth 3