Our culture does not encourage men to marry, have lots of children, and then lead those families in sacrificial love. Because of that, our society is filled with men who are not pressured to control their sinful sexual impulses and instead enjoy romance and sex with one woman in faithful marriage for their entire lives. Our society is filled with men who are not praised for marriage, faithfulness, hard work, teaching their children, and submitting to Godly authority themselves. Our culture admires rebellion and sexual deviance and then is shocked to find rebels and sexual deviants in its midst.
And what is currently called “feminism” is a part of that foolish cultural curriculum.
To be clear, I am not rebuking the belief that men and women are equal, which is God-given truth. That I gladly hold as gloriously true as much as I do the personhood of men, of the unborn, of those with Down Syndrome, and of every single son or daughter of Adam and Eve. No, modern Western feminism teaches much more than simply that. It teaches that women should be able to murder other women simply because the latter are currently in the former’s womb. It teaches that motherhood is a lesser achievement than a large salary. But at the moment I have in mind simply its teaching (I think on the syllabus under “patriarchy”) that men should not want to marry and then sacrificially lead their wives.
Modern “feminism” helps to create the very thing it detests. It (appropriately) detests slovenly, uncontrolled, evil men who prey upon those weaker than them. Unfortunately, it helps to create such men by fighting against society’s demanding of men to be what God calls them to be: Loving leaders of families they are given by God. It tells men not to use their strength for what they are supposed to use it for, and then detests what evil things they do use it for.
Make no mistake: These men will, if they do not repent and call on Christ to bear God’s wrath for all of their sins, spend eternity in Hell in His just wrath (along with everyone else who will not turn to Christ in this life). But modern Western feminism is a part of this maelstrom of sexual violence and confusion. It is not the solution. It says that nothing is solid, anything goes. And as it has gained influence, men (and women) are acting like nothing is solid and anything goes. I’m sure most feminists would react furiously to that contention, but I think it’s fairly obvious, and so I contend it.
Despite what feminism says, God has made men physically stronger than women and has commanded that they use that strength, as well as the rest of what makes them men, to sacrificially lead a wife and children (as well as to defend those generally weaker than they are). A society that praises such men and denounces those who do the opposite, as well as teaches men how to be such men, will generally have more of them. It will have more men who marry one woman, have children with her, work hard to provide for them, stay sexually and romantically faithfully to that wife for life, guard that family from physical and (if they are Christian) spiritual danger, and teach the children how to be good and capable human beings.
Do you want that kind of society? I do. And I believe that God does.
A society and its culture cannot convert men, but it can restrain them. God lays out this principal in places like Romans 13, when Paul teaches that God has given humanity the governing authorities to at least restrain those who will not be truly changed into saints by the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
Let’s wrap it up. I’m going to take my two oldest outside. My exhortation to my society is this: Abandon what we call “feminism” and drop, even faster, your normalization of pornography, adultery, unmarital sex, homosexual behavior, and attempted gender bending. In place of these, uphold the beauty of femininity and the wonder of masculinity.
God made both masculinity and femininity, just as He made us male and female. There is wonder and majesty in this, in the grand story God is telling about Himself through men being brave and strong and loving and gentle and hard as rock for things, in women being beautiful and courageous and soft and childbearing and nurturing and loving and obedient and life-giving. It is wondrous and, like all things He created, good.
I want my society to fight against what men are being with the truth of what they should be.
Modern “feminism” is fighting against an evil with a lie.
Evil is much more effectively put down with truth.
The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it. And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, ‘You may surely eat of every tree of the garden, but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die.’ Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.’ Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, ‘This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.’ Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.